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Tuesday, October 6th, 2009

Awful Bus Trip Experience Pt. 2

Cyring Moments from Vacation

Cyring Moments from Vacation

Bus ride from NM to DEN
The long awaited part 2 commentary on our “WORST BUS TRIP EVER.”

1:00 am:  The 11:30pm bus finally arrived.  We were the first in line to board, and we said our final good-bye to the parents that stood by us all night.  As I watched our bags get loaded, Steven proceeded into the bus to secure seats.  The bus was not clean, nor did it feel comfortable for a 7 hour bus ride.  I found Steven, and he had a look of terror and disappointment.  He was not able to find any two seats together, and his face indicated how sorry and helpless he felt.  CRY MOMENT #4.  Not only was I tired, and upset.  But now I needed to sit with a stranger for 7 hours.

*ONLY POSITIVE MOMENT OF THE BUS RIDE* a man seeing my sadness volunteered his seat to Steven which allowed us to sit together in the second row of the bus.

1:25 am: We were on our way.  CRY MOMENT #5.  Tired, upset at leaving abruptly, to have lost all that time with his family, that the bus smelled unclean, that the seats were too small, that the woman in front of us felt the need to recline her chair,  and that we weren’t even going to make our flight!  Knowing that we could have just as easily driven ourselves the next morning, or flew out of Albuquerque and miss our flight anyway was upsetting in itself.  Part way down the freeway, and amidst Steven’s concerned kisses and hugs I was too tired to cry, and I fell asleep. 

3:45 am: Awakened by a sudden stop, I looked around and realized we were at a gas station.  The driver did not speak English (Greyhound runs during the daytime hours, and their routes in the late evening are run by American Autobuses, which was never indicated to us), and was making an announcement of some sort.  We were apparently taking a break at the gas station.  CRY MOMENT #6, just because I hated EVERYTHING at the moment.

4:15 am: Finally leaving the gas station and back en route to Denver.  At this point we DEFINITELY were not making our flight.  Steven also advised me that thus far on the ride, he was being dripped on by the bus.  There was some sort of leak from the air conditioning unit, which was apparently located above us.  The fact that it was leaking explained why it hadn’t been running the whole ride. 

7:20 am: Arrival in Colorado Springs.  Our flight leaving DIA at 8:00am was going to leave without us.  We stopped with only enough time to let people off, and then we were once again on our way.

8:30am: On the freeway getting into Denver.  CRY MOMENT # 7.  We had missed our flight, and I didn’t know what flights were available throughout the day.  At this point, we had to ride stand-by for a flight home.

Upon arrival at the bus station, the taxi we had ordered was already there, he got us to the airport promptly and at a very small fee.  We checked in, had breakfast and made our way to our gate.  Waiting indoors at the temperature controlled airport was 100% better than our bus ride.  We spent all day Wednesday trying to get on a flight, but they all left full.  That evening we were fortunate enough to have a friend working for the Red Lion hotel and he had given us a great rate for a BEAUTIFUL room.  We were able to shower, and really just relax before heading out early to the airport for another day of waiting. 

Thursday morning, the flights were all once again full.  However, we were able to split up, and fly out seperately.  Steven arrived in Seattle direct from Denver around noon, and I arrived in Seattle with a  lay-over in Portland at 2pm. 

There is no moral to this story, nor any words of wisdom.  It’s just too good of a story to keep locked up.  The series of unfortunate events continued to pile up, but in the end we made it home.  Slight bruised, but overall alive.
 
Do YOU have a story to tell?

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Monday, September 28th, 2009

Awful Bus Trip Experience Pt. 1

Green Bus of Doom

Green Bus of Doom

Bus ride from NM to DEN
The long awaited commentary on our “WORST BUS TRIP EVER.”

Steven and I had to make it to Denver by 8am Wednesday morning.  It was 6pm Tuesday night when he and I logged on to buy our flight tickets from Albuquerque to Denver.  Once logged on, we realized that the flights leaving Albuquerque will not get to Denver in time for our connecting flight to Seattle.  We started to look into other options.  Rental car, train, BUS.  The rental cars weren’t available until 8am the next morning, the train didn’t even go through Albuquerque that next day, and then we found the bus routes!

The ticket prices would have saved us a bundle, and the next one leaving that will arrive in Denver by 6am left in 3 hours.  It really was our only option.  We would have had to cut our vacation short with our parents, and I didn’t feel good about leaving so abruptly. CRY MOMENT #1.  I broke down because I wasn’t planning on leaving that night, and I just hated to go.  Our vacation WASN’T over, and if I had to take the bus that night it truly was.  I was also terribly afraid of riding the bus for 7 hours.  I’ve never done that, and I just wasn’t sure what to expect.  Fear of the unknown, and sadness of our vacation ending created uncontrollable sobs.

9:15 pm: Steven’s parents drove us to the bus station and we were there the one hour before departure, as the website had requested us to do.  Within minutes we had picked up our tickets, and now just had to await the 45 minutes until the bus arrived for loading.  The bus departure was 10:30pm.

10:15 pm: The news broadcasted on the television in the terminal had looped, and we were back to watching the same coverage as when we had arrived.  Knowing that we were leaving in fifteen minutes eased the boredom. 

10:45 pm: No bus has arrived, and no comment from the bus line regarding it’s cancellation or delay.

11:15 pm: BUS ARRIVES!  We are told to take our spots in line.  Steven and I stood behind our bags, which we had lined up upon our arrival to the station, and said good-bye to his parents who had waited with us.  CRY MOMENT #2.  The ticket agent advised that there was only room for 5 people on this bus, and everyone else will need to wait for the next one.  We were passengers 6 and 7.  Rage, confusion, and again, the fear of the unknown took over me and I burst into tears.  The next bus was to leave at 11:30pm, and we were told that they should be here shortly.  We assessed the times, and found that we would still be able to make our flight if we took the next bus.  We continued to wait.

12:30pm:  The four of us (Steven, myself, and his parents) were still waiting for the 11:30 pm bus.  Steven tried to talk to the ticket agent, but was met with a “Break for dinner.  Be back in 1 hour” sign.  Not knowing when we were leaving, and knowing we’ll miss our flight anyway.  We continued to wait.  Sleep deprivation and frustration took over.  CRY MOMENT #3.

Stay tuned for part 2 next week till then…Be yourself. Everyone else is taken. :)

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Monday, September 21st, 2009

Disney wants to Celebrate You!

Disney Princess Cupcakes

Disney Princess Cupcakes

Celebrate You!

CONGRATULATIONS!  Disneyland’s 2009 celebration is about YOU.  From the moment you enter the park, the cast members are ready to celebrate your birthday, engagement, anniversary, or even just Sunday! 

Their promotion beginning on January 1, 2009 allows you to get in free at the Disneyland Theme park on your birthday.  However, even if you’re there 5 days after, or 2 weeks before, they will be more than happy to adorn you with a pin indicating what you are celebrating, so that everyone in the park can celebrate with you.

This last weekend, my family and I attended the celebration at the Disneyland park in Anaheim.  My first stop upon entering the park was Town Hall (Guest Services).  I requested a pin for my mom, who’s birthday was 8/26 (5 days prior), but we were celebrating it at the park.  She wore her pin proudly, and throughout the day guests as well as cast members wished her a “Happy Birthday.”
Each and every time we passed a cast member, their heads would turn and with an ear to ear smile they would say “HAPPY BIRTHDAY!” as if they’d known her for years, and were genuinely happy it was her birthday. 

The park is the same age old park that we know and love.  However, the rides have been updated, and although you may feel like you’ve seen it all, there have been some new editions in recent years.  The shining moment was Disney’s most recent street parade (which this year is a street PARTY).  The floats rode down Main Street U.S.A and stopped in “party spots” to clap, dance, and CELEBRATE you.  They grabbed kids and adults from crowd and made everyone a part of the magic. 
That is what Disney is about.  Making YOU feel that you’re important, and your feelings, emotions, and memories are important too.  They are so important, that the Walt Disney company has put millions of dollars into parks where you can remember the good times, make memories, and celebrate YOU.

Be Yourself.  Everyone else is taken. :)  

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Sunday, August 2nd, 2009

ISFP v. INFJ on VACATION

If you’ve read the most recent post, you’ll know that Steven and I took a vacation recently. We traveled from Seattle, Washington to Denver, Colorado, spent a few days in the Mile-High City, and then spent the bulk of our vacation in Albuquerque, New Mexico. Let me tell you how that unfolded.

Personality Traits Vacation Planning Picture

Personality Traits Vacation Planning Picture

INFJ Personality Type:

In the MONTHS prior, I reminded Steven that we are going on vacation and may need to start putting money aside. He seemed to be listening, and as the bulk of the vacation was with HIS family, I let him plan accordingly. Our few days in Denver were MY responsibility and I proceeded to make the arrangements of sleeping, eating, and spending time. I spent numerous phone calls with our friends and “family” planning the portion of our trip in Denver. We decided that ONE event and then “going-with-the-flow” may be our best option. As much as I wanted to PLAN every second of the day, I reminded myself that it’s a vacation, and that my friends wouldn’t steer me wrong. Trust is not something that comes easily for a judging personality trait.

ISFP Personality Type:

In the DAYS prior, he had booked our flights and assessed our budget. He made no phone calls to confirm any plans, he just assumed that because he had mentioned it at some point, that it was going to happen. Steven took a VACATION. He didn’t feel pressured to make a list of his suitcase contents, as I had. He simply packed. He SENSED that I was getting stressed before the trip and did our laundry while I was at work, so that I could easily pack when I got home. He TRUSTED that our trip would be fine, and that whatever happens we’d be able to roll with the punches. It drove me NUTS!

However, the entire trip went great. We arrived in Denver, spent time with Elizabeth and Alvion Harris in Colorado Springs, and learned about home makeovers. Then had a VERY successful reunion barbecue at Becky and Emily’s home. Most of our dearest friends in Colorado were present, as well as Jolene, who had flown in from New Mexico!! In Albuquerque, the plans were to spend time with family and Steven’s friends. Mission Accomplished! Several days had passed and we were sad to come home. Steven is a new uncle to his sister’s first baby, Luke!

Oh, and remember I talked about trust? Well…I went on the Albuquerque Tramway!!! I’m terrified of heights! But I trusted Steven and his parents, and that they wouldn’t put me in danger. I braved the 15 minute trek up the side of a mountain, and over a large gorge in a small car hanging from some wires. I’m not pretending to say that I wasn’t tense…but I never knew I could hold my breathe for that amount of time.

The return home, is an ENTIRELY different blog. I’m still trying to calm myself down enough to type about it, without getting frustrated.

However, my advise is that if you have similar personality traits to an INFJ personality type and you can’t necessarily just “go-with-the-flow,” trick yourself. Take some time, and really just enjoy each other, and the time you’re spending together. TRUST your mate and that they love you enough to know what makes you happy, you just have to allow them to do so. Think of it as a day in their shoes.

Till next time…..

Be Yourself. Everyone else is taken! :)

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Friday, July 24th, 2009

Dealing with Different Relationship Personalities on Vacation (ISFP vs. INFJ)

Guest Post from Alvion Harris @ http://www.AlvionTV.com/blog

Personality Testing Sign

Personality Testing Sign

I had the pleasure of spending some quality time with our favorite relationship personalities this past week. So in light of their famous pre-marriage relationship posts. I thought I would add my 2 cents to the cause. People think relationship conflicts are the agitation of one party on another. However, when two people learn to communicate effectively the agitation leads to understanding. With major differences in their personalities Steven & Rhemy must be ripe for conflict. Not true! The dynamics work very well especially when absent of certain external pressures. From my perspective there are very few conflicts if time, opportunity cost, and impression are managed correctly.

    Time:

Because our time together was a low-key vacation environment the only time pressure was being with each other and having fun. This usually calms dominate traits and allows relaxation.

    Opportunity Cost:

Life usually requires there to be a trade off. With personalities it usually means one party has to win and another lose. Its why men usually don’t get to play “Baby got back” at the wedding till later in the reception and something more sentimental like “I Will Always Love You” is on repeat the first hours. Opportunity cost is managed by compromise. This where the communication can be most important if either party feels slighted things fall apart. When everyone is onboard from the beginning (they both chose vacation details) then the opportunity cost issue is settled.

    Impression:

The brunt of most relationship conflicts hinges up perception of the lasting impression they are making. Everyone has known each other for years and the need to impress or leave an impression is zero. Its easy to avoid conflicts because past experience assures everything will be okay despite the short-term perception.

    Key Moments Relationship Personalities Showed:
    Rhemy an INFP personality

Without a defined schedule her planning side was satisfied with an agenda of activities to do, but no time constraints for them.

She jumped right into dynamic conversation and expressed herself.

When a decision was being made she expressed options.

    Steven an ISFJ personality

He was game for any activity and took whatever came up in stride.

Once the conversation picked up he fed off that energy and participated.

The decision had to make everyone happy so only that option was acceptable.

My impression is that the success of our time together was a combination of the environment and longevity of knowing each other. In this case it was less about communication because no high consequence decisions had to be made. I find it interesting that these are some of the same key factors for a successful marriage. Everything appears to be going well to until these factors start to work against you. Just my 2 okay maybe 3 cents.

-Alvion Harris
http://www.AlvionTV.com & http://www.AlvionHarris.com Plus on Twitter: Follow me on Twitter

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