If you’ve read the most recent post, you’ll know that Steven and I took a vacation recently. We traveled from Seattle, Washington to Denver, Colorado, spent a few days in the Mile-High City, and then spent the bulk of our vacation in Albuquerque, New Mexico. Let me tell you how that unfolded.
Personality Traits Vacation Planning Picture
INFJ Personality Type:
In the MONTHS prior, I reminded Steven that we are going on vacation and may need to start putting money aside. He seemed to be listening, and as the bulk of the vacation was with HIS family, I let him plan accordingly. Our few days in Denver were MY responsibility and I proceeded to make the arrangements of sleeping, eating, and spending time. I spent numerous phone calls with our friends and “family” planning the portion of our trip in Denver. We decided that ONE event and then “going-with-the-flow” may be our best option. As much as I wanted to PLAN every second of the day, I reminded myself that it’s a vacation, and that my friends wouldn’t steer me wrong. Trust is not something that comes easily for a judging personality trait.
ISFP Personality Type:
In the DAYS prior, he had booked our flights and assessed our budget. He made no phone calls to confirm any plans, he just assumed that because he had mentioned it at some point, that it was going to happen. Steven took a VACATION. He didn’t feel pressured to make a list of his suitcase contents, as I had. He simply packed. He SENSED that I was getting stressed before the trip and did our laundry while I was at work, so that I could easily pack when I got home. He TRUSTED that our trip would be fine, and that whatever happens we’d be able to roll with the punches. It drove me NUTS!
However, the entire trip went great. We arrived in Denver, spent time with Elizabeth and Alvion Harris in Colorado Springs, and learned about home makeovers. Then had a VERY successful reunion barbecue at Becky and Emily’s home. Most of our dearest friends in Colorado were present, as well as Jolene, who had flown in from New Mexico!! In Albuquerque, the plans were to spend time with family and Steven’s friends. Mission Accomplished! Several days had passed and we were sad to come home. Steven is a new uncle to his sister’s first baby, Luke!
Oh, and remember I talked about trust? Well…I went on the Albuquerque Tramway!!! I’m terrified of heights! But I trusted Steven and his parents, and that they wouldn’t put me in danger. I braved the 15 minute trek up the side of a mountain, and over a large gorge in a small car hanging from some wires. I’m not pretending to say that I wasn’t tense…but I never knew I could hold my breathe for that amount of time.
The return home, is an ENTIRELY different blog. I’m still trying to calm myself down enough to type about it, without getting frustrated.
However, my advise is that if you have similar personality traits to an INFJ personality type and you can’t necessarily just “go-with-the-flow,” trick yourself. Take some time, and really just enjoy each other, and the time you’re spending together. TRUST your mate and that they love you enough to know what makes you happy, you just have to allow them to do so. Think of it as a day in their shoes.
Till next time…..
Be Yourself. Everyone else is taken! 
